Polygamy, polyamory – why not?

Today I red an article in Weekend Magazin about polygamy (probably reprint from Kronen Zeitung). There was described a case in which 21 old man from Kosovo got married with his 25 year old Austrian girlfriend. It wouldn’t be anything unusual despite the fact he already had a wife in Kosovo. After some time and baby from second marriage health insurance agency found out about his first wife and he was charged of bigamy. Decision of the court he got suspended sentence of three months of jail (in the worst case he could be convicted of 3 years of imprisonment).
Now if his second wife was not informed and agreed with the presence of first one then it’s a case of fraud and the second bond should be invalidated. But what I find strange are penalties just from the fact of having two “legal” partners. Of course it’s nothing new, the law was always treated it as a crime but who has sacrificed it a second thought? Nowadays with accepting homosexual marriages in many countries such law seems to be at least backward and obsolete. But who cares about it? If we would ask people in European countries and United States about who would want to have or have need for more than one legal partner then very likely we would obtain very little percent of positive answers. Our cultural conditioning makes that we can’t even imagine polygamous model as functioning in our life. People usually realize that there are polygamous cultures but most of them is not aware that well working family models are far more various and common beyond main stream of Judeo-Christian cultures. They assume that standard monogamous model (for many with mom and dad) is the only right one. There is no bigger organized groups which would press governments to change the law how is it in case of homosexuals. We don’t realize how deep Christian culture influenced the law and culture. If we want it or not we were raised in such culture and many patterns were taken unaware as a norm and we even don’t think it could be something wrong with them. Most people simply assume that their way is the best way. Is it really?

2 thoughts on “Polygamy, polyamory – why not?

    • Polyamory means more complications ;). However my point was that there is no limit to love and if someone feels the need, why limit ourselves to rigid social standards? We have no real exclusivity to someone, everyone is free to choose whatever he/she wants at every time and no papers (like marriage) can change that.

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